The overchoice syndrome: too many options
Bonjour my smoking peacocks! Hope that you are feeling as good as a baby who just burped! Aaaaaaaah 21st century and its infinite choices... We can be everything, go everywhere, eat anything, travel everywhere, fuck everybody and never get enough!!!! We have SO many choices that we can't choose. Especially in big cities like NYC where people are free spirit, and don't care much about God or karma. You do you and that's it, careless and consequence free. But how to do you and be you when you can be eeeeveeeeeryyythiiingggggg??? HOOOOOWWWW??? What if you make this choice but there is another better? And what if you go to the so-called better choice but the first one was in fact better and now you're screwed because you can't go back? What if you are never satisfied with your choice and truly believe that there is always a better option and your goal (jajajaja: spanish laugh) is to always find better and never settle because the grass is always greener elsewhere (and there is a lot of grass...)Well, let me tell you something my dear peacocks, if you are always looking for a better option, a better choice, it means that YOU are the problem!!!!!! Ok, let me put it in a nicer way: you are not the problem but you are definitely not ok with who you are. If you are an eternal unsatisfied, it means that you are not satisfied with yourself. The answer is not outside but inside. I always give my mascara example. When the "They Are Real" mascara by Benefit came out, I tried it and have stuck to it ever since. Why? Because I was satisfied... No, I was HAPPY with it and my search was over. I found what I needed because it exactly answered my needs. I saw many other commercials about amazing other mascaras, but guess what? I was happy with mine and didn't even think about getting another one because I was already happy. This mascara just contributed to my happiness but didn't make me happy. See the difference?But I am a Human, so one day, I got bored and tried another one, the new best seller (because mine was the best seller but it became second). So I bought the new one, tried it once, twice, ten times... And I didn't like it at all. I couldn't even get used to it. And then, I asked myself:" Why the fuck did I switch mascara? I loved the Benefit one? Why did I fucked up the perfect relationship? My lashes love that mascara!!!!!... Oh because I saw something new and I wanted to chaaaaaannnnnge, to give a tryyyyyy.... And now what? I HATE that one. Let me just go back to my Benefit".Of course that is just a mascara but you see my point. And I am not saying that you should settle for less or mediocre. But once you find what makes you happier, why wanting to fuck it up for something else? If you are willing to give up on something great, it is MAYBE because you are not happy/ satisfied in the first place. But I mean really happy, not comfortable. These two are different. You don't keep things or people because you feel guilty. This is a charity case and most people don't like to be treated as charity (if they do, send them to me!)Happiness is within us and nothing, no one will make you happy. But they are for sure contributing to our happiness.Now, happiness, according to me, is work! And a lot of it.Don't get fooled by overchoice. It will just confused you even more. You need to know what you want at first place even if it is not precise.If choices are a problem, it shows that you are very confused at first place and not really comfortable in your life.If your ass is always unsatisfied and you need to jump from woman to woman, man to man, location to location, new venture to new venture... STOP! Take a deep breath and start asking yourself WHY?It is inner work, self development, so it is pretty intense and very deep. Good news is that you don't need to do it alone and I am here for that. Look at my coaching page: http://www.lyapouleyy.com/wcc/That's all for me kiddos!Peace n kiss
